With a new year upon us, many of you have set some resolutions for 2010 to better yourself in some way. Becoming physically fit, loosing weight, quit drinking or smoking, getting organized and getting out of debt are all common resolutions made each year.
However, I would like to challenge you to make a separate resolution for your relationship!
Many of you have probably experienced some tough times lately. With economical problems for so many, no wonder why couples are experiencing relationship problems right now. In hard times, one of two things typically happen... Either you lean on the one you love or you let the stress push you further away. The latter of the two can be devastating to a healthy relationship.
Take some time to really evaluate your romance level right now. Are there things you need to focus on? If so, you have a New Year's Romance-olution! Here are a few examples...
Date Night: Once a week would be fantastic but once a month can work wonders for a relationship starting to weaken. Remember, "date night" doesn't have to be to a fancy expensive restaurant. Sometimes even an evening at the movies can cost more than many can afford in this time. Get creative and keep "date night" affordable for you or your families circumstance. A picnic or walk at the park, a special candle lit midnight "snack" after the kids are in bed, game night at home or stargazing in the back yard. The idea is it doesn't have to cost anything to enjoy each other and to reconnect.
Communication: If you have found yourself and the one you love having more stress or arguments, consider focusing on your communication. Have a conversation with your lover about your desire to work on your communication. There are many books that can help to learn techniques that will literally save a marriage. Communication is KEY in any relationship. Whether you are communicating about money, kids, work, sex or even politics, if you don't have a good technique for talking to each other, problems will arise.
More Frequent Intercourse: Not only does intercourse help to release hormones that will keep you connected, it is also a lot of fun. Besides that, who would want to fight with someone they just had great sex with the night before? It's proven that couples who have sex frequently have stronger relationships, they fight less and they feel connected to each other. Not only that but on a personal level you will feel happier, less stressed and loved and secure. Two to three night per week is a good number to shoot for. Every day, even better! I say, go for it as often as possible. Don't limit yourself, instead put a "minimum" on the number of times a week you take a roll in the hay!
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