Do You Feel Something Odd?

Recently a client of mine told me about a problem she had with her IUD and I thought it was a good subject to blog about. An IUD, or Intrauterine Device, is a small object placed behind the cervix into the uterus to prevent pregnancy. A "string" at the end of the device hangs out of the cervix into the upper vagina. An IUD is not noticeable during sex, at least it isn't meant to be...

For several weeks "Sarah" had been having some pain during intercourse. Small stabbing pains, as she described it, in her pelvis during sex and sometimes when she turned a certain way or even sneezed. Sarah makes an appointment with her Gynecologist and after a simple ultrasound to check the position of her IUD she is told that her IUD has slipped out of place. In fact I think she told me the exact words of the Ultrasound Technician was "Wow, you're lucky you're not pregnant. The IUD is not in place!" Sarah goes in during her next menstrual cycle to have the IUD replaced.

A week or so later, Sarah and her husband are having intercourse when he mentions to her that it "feels better" now. Curiously she asks him why. He says to her "Well, I can't feel that thing scraping on me anymore." The string that hangs out of the cervix is very short but because the IUD was not in place it was hanging out further and he could actually feel it during sex. However, he never said anything to her about it.

The moral of the story... Have a conversation with your lover that if he or she feels, sees or even smells something abnormal, to let you know about it. Reassure them that you will not be offended or hurt. Do this tonight!

Let's face it, our lovers feel us in different ways than we feel ourselves. In retrospect, be sure to pay attention to your lover too. If you see or feel something "off" be sure to mention it. Often times breast cancer, testicular cancer, anal cancer, HPV or other STD's can be noticeable by the partner of those who suffer from these ailments. This communication will help your lover avoid many problems and can also be life saving!